So when my daughter came along it was an automatic rule: no dating until 17. However, the reasoning was a little different. When she begged and pleaded with me to let so-and-so take her out on a date I would remind her that she had to be 17. I reasoned with her that I preferred she had at least a year's experience driving before she went out on a date alone with a guy.
Now my daughter is 19. The other day she was talking about how glad she was that she hadn't gone out with a bunch of different guys in high school and, though it had been really tough with all of her friends dating, she was glad I made her wait. She said, "You were right, Mom."
Wow! I was wasn't expecting that!
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It's funny, looking back on it now, I'm glad my parents were so strict with me. Some things I wish they had been less strict about, but overall, I'm glad because I think I turned out well.
Every once in a while, just out of the blue, they let you know that, just maybe, they 'get it', just the least little bit. . .
And those moments are pure gold. . .
Wow, that's a first ..... someone who was stricter than us!
And treasure them moments, we've had a few here and there and it's pretty cool when the brats get it. Even when they don't say it!
My parents had a similar rule and I ABSOLUTELY believe they were right.
But most of our friends had the same rule, so there wasn't a lot of "pressure" about it for us. None of the people who we would've dated (were we allowed) would have been able to date us!
See. You are a good mom. Always have been. And it doesn't matter how long it takes for them to realize it.
Did you happen to have her write that down and then go together to have it notarized? :)
I have a friend with a 14 year old daughter who is all traumatized after going through a breakup with her boyfriend. Another friend and I were talking yesterday about it and we both said, "Who let's their 14 year old daughter have a boyfriend, anyway?" Clearly neither of us (when the time comes...and our sons want to date them...)
"You were right, Mom"??? That's one you don't hear very often!
I can't remember if I was 16 or 17 when I went on my first date(s). But then, it wasn't because my parents didn't let me up until that point... Ahem.
That had to feel good!
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